You forgive us our stupidity and still supply our daily bread
Sister is dying inside
She cannot speak out
She could not ask for help
No one could read her mind
No one could understand her
Because it doesn’t seem normal
She doesn’t want to be ostracized
Now she’s getting worse and no cure
We still don’t know what or the cause
So let’s begin a new culture of openness
Remove the stigma and you could save some
#Mentalhealth, depression and anxiety are real.
When all said and done, the only thing that will matter will be your relationship with the Son.
When you know your unique worth and value you will have no fear of competition because nobody can actually compete with you. You are uniquely crafted and gifted in a way that it is absolutely impossible to replicate. Your timeline and sequence of events are completely personalized and so there is no need trying to compete with anyone else. Your priority is to identify your mission/purpose in life and fight to accomplish it.
If you want want to compete, go compete with your ancestors. If you win, you are a local champion. Meaning that you are legitimately a failure. Don’t even think of competing with your peers, co-workers or friends because you DON’T have any close substitute or equal. Even your identical twin has a completely different mission and timeline on earth.
People say “strive today to be better than your yesterday”. I say “if you are just better today than your yesterday, then you’re a failure because you are still living in your past glories”. Like, thank GOD for those stuffs and more on. I know the idea is never to have a better yesterday but my point is never to live in yesterday.
If you want true competition, dream of the person you want to be in 5, 10 years and start competing against them with the resources you have now.
This is what I call competition because naturally, you will have access to more and better information, resources, network and skills 5-10years from now than what you currently have. And so it will be a real challenge to compete with them. And don’t just say it today and abandon it a few weeks after like your new year resolution.
So what do you want to become or where do you want to be in 5-10years time?
Take out time away from the disturbance and enjoyment of the moment to think, plan and reflect on your life and destiny. Travel out of your current community or locality if need be. You need a quiet time to communicate with GOD, yourself and your future. Maybe take a fast from food or even social fasting. Take a walk in the park. Collect your church key/access and go there during non-service hours and days. Visit a place where you have access to more natural environment or just wake up in the night, observe the serenity of environment and the ‘interaction’ in the firmament. Read some books or autobiographies about some of the people and or public figures that you inspire you.
Take your writing (or drawing or recording) materials along. Write down your thoughts, feelings, observations, questions and revelations.
Then asked yourself what skills, attitude, behavioral modification or resources you think are necessary to actualize this dream?
Then, take out time to evaluate your writings, recordings or drawings. Scale it and challenge yourself to start making the adjustment to pattern your life after your new vision. Here, remember to speak of practical and realistic facts using the SMART Goal Principle – Be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-bound.
A daily, weekly, monthly and ultimately, yearly target
Then begin the actual competition (against your future self) as if it’s a sport for a prize. Set up a reward system for yourself to keep you motivated.
The most fascinating thing about this write- up is that I don’t have it all figured out yet and so I am speaking to myself too.
We live in a very fascinating, fast pace world. Everyone wants to be wealthy, famous, influential and married asap. Everybody wants quick-fix, stress-free solutions to everything. We are blessed with advanced technologies and the social media that is literally taking away interpersonal interaction. With the likes of drive-thru, microwave, social media billionaires, everything is moving really fast. The virtues of patience and hard work seem to be fading away but we are here to reiterate, reinstate and reinforce it.
The clock is ticking so fast
Yet I will wait for the Lord’s time
For everything under the Sun, there is time
Everyone and everything is going very fast
Microwave, drive-thru, smart phones, social media, all seem fast
Yet the silent voice says the best is God’s time
The vision is for an appointed time
So though the vision tarry yet will I hold fast
Those that wait upon the Lord
A renewed strength and wings they received for the fall
For within a night, a child is swiftly conceived today
But it takes 9months to have the child’s naming ceremony and dedication to the Lord
So I will wait while planning and executing, and not waiting for windfall
Because tomorrow is only tomorrow to those who plan and execute today.
INSPIRATION: I wrote this poem specifically for my beloved sister and friends who are God fearing, educated, hard working, beautiful and yet single. There are so many questions that ran through the heart and many pressures from family and friends. I just wanted to let them know that they are precious and valuable independently and to reassure them of their authentic self worth. And finally, a note to the family to celebrate their daughters/sisters as heroines and rare gems because soon they will be found by “noble” laureates and you won’t have close access to them.
THEMES: Some of the underlying themes of this poem are beauty, self-worth, royalty, virtuous, family pressure, etc
HER HEART ❣️
Like the King’s home street,
Her Heart is made of pure gold
Yet no miner wants to mine it
Is it because goldsmiths only buy raw gold?
Or she’s just too refined for a gold digger?
Her Dad has preserved her heart for a royalty
Because only true royalties cherish pure gold
Therefore, as a beloved daughter of God
No beast can come near her.
She’s a priceless princess
Her networth is the Son’s blood
She has already been purchased
Even before you were born
She has been predestinated by the King
She knows her rights but has given them up
From freedom fighter to freedom ambassador
Former rebel called this transformation
For this is no amnesty.
She’s like the lilies of the field
For wealth and wisdom isn’t to be compared with
She’s the lily of the valley
A lily among thorns trying to choke out her joy.
She’s the favor factor
For the diligent researcher who finds her
For there are many researchers
But only the inspirational ones become laureates.
Therefore, blessed is the man who finds her
Virtue is the blood that runs through her veins
See how she groomed her kid brother
Whose love for excellence and profound humility transcends
The cultural confinement of the world.
Oh earth, how blessed thou art!
For in thee dwells such an enigmatic
Simplification of the Godhead
A personified form of the glory, honor and splendor.
Hello family, celebrate your heroine and rare gem
A royalty deserving to be loved and cherished
Clothe her with royal apparel of love, faith and hope
For soon her noble laureate will find her
And forever you remain well-wishers and visitors!
Whenever I’m facing the heat
Whether from peace or beat
Two things come to my heart
To pen or to quit
Most times I feel like quitting
But then I remember the
Heart-reviving words of MrCHRISLOVE™
“There’s no reward for giving up on your dreams“
So I drop the quit option in the pen
And dust off my pen
This is my reward for believing in me
Don’t give up, believe in your dreams!
With Love, we can conquer all!
It is funny how we (inclusively) have successfully created a family of hypocrites in our quest for *good people*. This has been the case because we have a distorted meaning/perception of who ‘good’ and ‘bad’ friends are. Our definition of “good friends” are people who make nice and incredibly awesome comments, posts and status updates about us while “Bad friends” are those set of humans that will always criticize our works, reading between the lines in every posts or comments or statements we make, in order to tell us the errors or warning or mistakes we have made.
This misconceived ideology has strategically placed us in the position where we run away or avoid the people who are actually trying to make us better people by pointing out areas that need to be amended. And has guided us to unconsciously employ ‘hypocrites’: people with low sense of intellectual capacity (politically correct experts and flatterers). They will always at all-time in all situations tell you that you are doing great even when you are floating in errors and perpectual ignorance, mostly for personal gains (not necessarily monetary).
I mean, who does not love to wake up in the morning to a beautifully written post or people speaking well of him/her? We like to retweet, repost, share and screenshot seemingly beautiful, nicely worded or well-crafted works that feed our egos. But when someone tells us what we don’t like, we block, unfriend, ban and report them.
I am not saying that you should be nitpicking, looking for the slightest errors to comment about. I am saying that we need to also appreciate people who are able to correct us. People make constructive criticism of our works. I strongly believed that there is an element of truth or something to learn from in every criticism. And its not everyone that is knows how to make constructive criticisms. While some can express it in the form of jokes, piece of advice or stories, others are known to “give it raw”(as it is).
Haven said that, for those who are gifted in finding out errors in us, please also try to appreciate us when we do something right. If you’re an error detector, it means that you at least have a sense of what is good. And so find out those things that we did or are doing well and appreciate it at least once in your life with us.
A real life example, I had the privilege of being in a meeting with great minds some time ago (all Glory to God), and I was asked to proffer solution to the problem of how to get “our suffering/dying children to open up to us on where the challenge/sickness is affecting them so that we could be of help. I mean we have qualified doctors, surgeons, therapists, etc., who are capable of taking care of them”. This was a very technical problem. But I give a very concise and practical solution “BUILD RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM”. If you’re able to build a healthy trust-based relationship with people, they will tell you everything even before you ask them the challenges facing them.
Therefore, if you want to be a person of influence on people, first learn to appreciate the good they have done, then with love tell them what areas that they need to work on. And if possible, suggest the possible ways of going about it.
As for us who are being criticized or rebuked, let’s not run away from those people who rebuke or correct or point out the mistakes in our work. They are for our good. Let us not necessarily be looking at how much well those people are able to apply it to their lives. DO NOT SURROUND YOURSELF WITH EXCESSIVELY NEGATIVE PEOPLE. Your good friends or those that love you will always tell you the truth even when it doesn’t sound palatable. Take time to think and reflect on every criticism that you are opportune to receive. You grow more by learning from past mistakes.
By the way, I look really cute in these pictures – write your comments below and be aware that #demdeyrushus 👌🕺🤣🤴